Tuesday, June 16, 2009
The book every Black Woman should read.
Why Black men love White Women
This book should be required reading for every Black Woman. Without a doubt the Black Woman in America is endangered. We can debate this fact till the cows come home but it does not change the reality that Black Womanhood in America is under attack from each and every direction. So is Black manhood, I will not deny that. The big difference is, society as it is is more sensitive to the injustice directed at the Black male. It will make News Headlines and people will go out march and riot in defense of the Black Man's humanity. Compare that to the response any Black woman in a precarious situation gets and it is obvious that the scale is not balanced. By listening to the Black voices out there, the BM has it the worst and BW are not very supportive. This is one of the many excuses given by many Black men who choose to date and marry non Black women.
I always wondered at the phenomenon of BM wanting anything but BW. Where I am from, no one else will do other than a native. So it was kind of a cultural shock to find men that go out of their way to disparage their own women. This is not to say that African men don't marry White Women. They do albeit in small numbers. But what they don't do is to go out their way and abuse the womanhood of their own women.
African men (where I am from) tend to quickly see their mothers and daughters in most women, even in their daily language they refer to women in the maternal sense. Unlike here they don't use the term 'sister'. They will use mama or auntie especially if the woman is older than them even by afew years. A woman with authority will be addressed as the boss she is and they will quickly and easily accept her authority.
My own dad, who was quite a big man in his day, refers to me as his sister and mother. Which is quite strange given that I am his daughter. His peers always tease him about being pushed around by the women (his daughters) in his life yet they take the same pushing around from theirs. Its known locally that if you want to get to a man bring his daughter into the picture. Its all over for him
Most men see their female peers as siblings and will treat them accordingly. Of course they have male chauvinism like any other men but what I see in Black America is very abnormal and destructive.
We still have a system of Patriarchy and women still fight for more rights. But, its a fair fight. They are not fighting against dehumanization by their own like Black American women have to. African women do not have their men ganging up with the White Supremest system to further dehumanize them. At least not for now.
This type of abuse is strictly an American Black Male's thing. And in this book I think we get an understanding of why that is the case. But should history and oppression be an excuse to further oppress or let your women be abused while you pursue that which you have been deceived into believing is better ?
And many Black men will say that men who do this are the minority. But Most black men do pursue the lighter is better ideal. So if Black men are practising colorism, where does that leave the Black Woman of a less favored hue? Alot has been said about it more eloquently than I can. Most of it is covered in this book. If you are a BW. Please please read it, ignore the Cheesy title.