Tuesday, June 16, 2009

The book every Black Woman should read.

Why Black men love White Women

This book should be required reading for every Black Woman. Without a doubt the Black Woman in America is endangered. We can debate this fact till the cows come home but it does not change the reality that Black Womanhood in America is under attack from each and every direction. So is Black manhood, I will not deny that. The big difference is, society as it is is more sensitive to the injustice directed at the Black male. It will make News Headlines and people will go out march and riot in defense of the Black Man's humanity. Compare that to the response any Black woman in a precarious situation gets and it is obvious that the scale is not balanced. By listening to the Black voices out there, the BM has it the worst and BW are not very supportive. This is one of the many excuses given by many Black men who choose to date and marry non Black women.

I always wondered at the phenomenon of BM wanting anything but BW. Where I am from, no one else will do other than a native. So it was kind of a cultural shock to find men that go out of their way to disparage their own women. This is not to say that African men don't marry White Women. They do albeit in small numbers. But what they don't do is to go out their way and abuse the womanhood of their own women.

African men (where I am from) tend to quickly see their mothers and daughters in most women, even in their daily language they refer to women in the maternal sense. Unlike here they don't use the term 'sister'. They will use mama or auntie especially if the woman is older than them even by afew years. A woman with authority will be addressed as the boss she is and they will quickly and easily accept her authority.

My own dad, who was quite a big man in his day, refers to me as his sister and mother. Which is quite strange given that I am his daughter. His peers always tease him about being pushed around by the women (his daughters) in his life yet they take the same pushing around from theirs. Its known locally that if you want to get to a man bring his daughter into the picture. Its all over for him

Most men see their female peers as siblings and will treat them accordingly. Of course they have male chauvinism like any other men but what I see in Black America is very abnormal and destructive.
We still have a system of Patriarchy and women still fight for more rights. But, its a fair fight. They are not fighting against dehumanization by their own like Black American women have to. African women do not have their men ganging up with the White Supremest system to further dehumanize them. At least not for now.

This type of abuse is strictly an American Black Male's thing. And in this book I think we get an understanding of why that is the case. But should history and oppression be an excuse to further oppress or let your women be abused while you pursue that which you have been deceived into believing is better ?

And many Black men will say that men who do this are the minority. But Most black men do pursue the lighter is better ideal. So if Black men are practising colorism, where does that leave the Black Woman of a less favored hue? Alot has been said about it more eloquently than I can. Most of it is covered in this book. If you are a BW. Please please read it, ignore the Cheesy title.

Friday, June 5, 2009

This story is too common among Africans.

What goes through the head of a woman who in a desperate need to please her husband, steals another woman's baby and fakes it as her own? Luckily this baby got back with his parents, some never do and they never know.

Atek and her baby Oloya at their home at Kanyagoga in Gulu

By Frederick Womakuyu
and Chris Ocowun

BABY Daniel Oloya has been re-united with his parents, Lily Atek and her husband John Otim, nearly a year after being stolen from their home in Kanyogoga parish, Gulu municipality.

The baby’s return follows an order by the Gulu magistrate court on May 13, that the child be returned after DNA tests established that Atek and Otim were the parents.

The court also issued an arrest warrant for Jane Abur, a teacher who was found with the child, whom he claimed was hers.

The baby was snatched from the house where the mother had left him to sleep in August 2008, at the age of three months.

Four months later, a whistle blower disclosed that in another part of Gulu town, a woman, who had not given birth, had a baby who was kept indoors most of the time.

While the Police investigated the matter, the baby was kept at St. Jude orphanage. Atek was able to identify her baby by birth marks on the breast and buttocks. She, however, had to wait for months for the Police investigations, which included a delayed DNA test.

Saturday Vision reported on April 25 that she had been kept waiting because Uganda had run out of DNA testing reagents.

After being returned to his mother, the baby refused to suckle because it had got used to cow milk.

Northern Uganda Regional Police Commander (RPC), PK Arinaitwe, said they had confirmed that Abur did not give birth. “We are charging her with child stealing. She was arrested and released on Police bond. However, she has since gone into hiding,” the office said.

Recently, James Toolit, the husband to Abur, made a statement to the Police disowning the baby. He accused his wife of faking a pregnancy and pretending to have delivered while he was in prison.

He became suspicious on his return from prison when he saw Abur not breastfeeding the baby she claimed to have delivered.

“The first question I asked my wife was where the delivery took place. She said she gave birth from Lacor Hospital. I asked her mother if she attended to her during delivery, but she denied. Abur again told my sister she delivered from Gulu Maternity Home and later that she delivered on her way to Gulu Independent Hospital. Too many contradictions,” Toolit said.