Saturday, February 2, 2008

What is appropriate wear for a wedding?

Too revealing a dress?

Why dishonour your host

The following article ran in my country's daily news paper. It is hillarious because of the cultural gap I now see and differing values having been in the states for almost five years. I have become desensitized to stuff that people back home would consider crazy. I would like to hear your views on these attitudes and what you consider appropriate attire for a wedding function as a guest.

LAST week, one of my favourite artistes, Ragga Dee, finally got married. I had expected him to wear something similar to his comic costumes but he chose a formal cream suit. This set the mood and style of the wedding. It was glamorous and most guests did not disappoint.
But as always at such functions, there are those who, in their efforts to either impress or cause a stir, get it wrong. Ragga Dee’s wedding was no exception. Some P.Y.T.s (Pretty Young Things) chose this moment to expose their ‘wares’. Some turned up in very skimpy clothes while others wore extremely high slits.
I wonder whether they did this out of ignorance or whether they were out to ‘fish’ and impress the opposite sex. Married women were among those who dressed inappropriately. Single women may be forgiven because they are out shopping. Rather than proving your sexiness, overtly sexy clothes at a wedding are always misunderstood. A revealing dress on a married woman might make people think she is not getting enough loving at home. Therefore, exposing too much thighs and boobs might be seen as a desperate attempt to rekindle a passion that is long dead. The thing is, whether a woman is married or single, there is no need to expose all you have as if you are up for sale.
Even ladies of the night have the decency to cover up at weddings or not to turn up at all.
There is no need to create an impression of desperation or poor judgment.
Wedding etiquette is such that all attention must be on the bride (never mind the groom). Any attempt to draw attention away from the bride is seen as a malicious move even if this was not your intention. You just wanted to wear your favourite or new outfit but wore it to the wrong function.
Below are some tips ;
-Do not wear white because it competes with the bride. Cream, ivory or pale pink would make good alternatives.
- Club wear and overtly sexy clothing do not belong to a wedding. So do not wear high slits, mini hemlines, plunging necklines and cropped tops even if you want to impress your man. Cover up, keep him intrigued and undress later when you are alone.
- There was a time when black was only worn to evening or night weddings but these days more and more people are wearing it to day weddings. However, sequins and heavy beading are totally out of place at a day wedding.
- If you know the colour the bridesmaids are wearing, do avoid it but if you do not, do not feel bad if it turns out you are wearing the same colour. You cannot possibly coordinate with everyone in the bridal entourage.
- Do wear something feminine and appropriate, out of respect for your hosts.
- If the invitation does not specify the formality of the event, use good judgment to select an outfit. For a daytime wedding, try a suit in pastel colours (lilac, pale pink, light blue, pale green, etc.) or a floral dress in soft fabric. If it is an evening event, go for simple glamour in a little black dress.